Nagger v. Naggee

This Wall Street Journal article hit a sore note in our household last night...

While I have always been the type to organize my time and prepare days/weeks ahead, my husband is a procrastinator, last minute, pressure needing type. Although we tend to balance one another out well, sometimes our personality timelines crash and our communication devolves into eye rolls and frustrated grunts.

I read this article and couldnt help but feel offended.  I know nagging is wrong and always regret doing it when its brought to my attention, but the author is very accusatory of the Nagger and seems a bit enabling if the Naggee. As a Nagger, I feel I must argue the other side. It frustrates me to have to ask about things ten times, just as much as its frustrating to hear me ask ten times. We're not nagging for fun; we're nagging because things need to get done. Nagging: The Marriage Killer could have just easily been named Not Doing What is Asked of You: The Marriage Killer.

The article did bring up good points about ways in which I should ask for things that are not so annoying. I appreciate the tone I use while asking is a huge part of what qualifies me as The Nagger and I resolve to work on that...  and hopefully my man also resolves to work on being more responsive to my kindly spoken requests.

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